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Sunday, March 24, 2013

First full day at the new house :) Mover's bring the rest of the stuff tomorrow!

Sunday, March 24, 2013 @ 3:28 pm
Good LATE afternoon!  It’s been a bit of a chore neglecting writing this much.  It seems that we’ve been overwhelmed this last couple of weeks.  Everything is falling in place, but it takes quite a bit of energy, BUT we’re not complaining, we are having the time of our life with all that is going on in our new life!  The movers will be here in about 20 hours, but Rich and I have made the switch where we are living at the new places, and we brought our two kitties with us.  They might not have been as exuberant as we’ve been.  What finally worked to get them into the cat carrier was to tip it on its end and then drop them in.  Missy got a scratched nose, but other than that they did pretty good after finally being caged.  They were quiet on the way over to the new place (about an hour), until Maury called and then when I started to talk, Missy decided she would like to talk too, but she quieted back down in short order.  They didn’t seem to mind our driving.  That was a nice turn of events.

There’s so much to talk about I don’t really know where to start.  Maybe it would just be to say that we are as excited as Hell to have made this huge transition.  I haven’t felt yet like it is real.  We are at the point of never going back to the old place.  I left my keys on the counter as instructed by the landlord.  I’ve got the Flylady to thank for that.  She insists on getting dressed everyday to the shoes, so we’ve been doing that for like the last 10-12 days and as it turned out the landlord who we’ve talked to, but haven’t seen the majority of twelve years walked into our place – the door had been open from Rich bringing things down to the car … and well, it was just amazing … we were dressed!  He asked if we were on schedule and it was as much as a walk-through as we’re getting.  We of course were happy to say everything was in order.  And then, Rich took him around the apartment to show him some of the problems we were having with the place that needed to be fixed before the next people came in.  He seemed ok with that as to what we heard, but again Rich took care of all that.  Thanks Rich!
We’ve been following a tough schedule that Rich and us set-up over the last week or so.  Most things got done, but Rich needed to do an extra trip.  It’s just that he needed somewhat of a break from all that today too.  He’s been working on some necessary household projects today.  He put-together my shower chair, and then he fixed the guest bed (headboard to frame) and now he’s working on the dishwasher.  I think his confidence in his abilities are improving daily.  But, it is still aggravating because he went over to help Bud and his mother with their bills today and Bud nagged and nagged him for not having things done sooner than what was happening.  I don’t think Bud has any boundaries as to how to deal with people or in general … he just doesn’t have people-skills.  It is very critical and negative to lay that much crap on Rich.  Rich is taking it better than we are, but it still hurts him personally. 

I just don’t think its fair.  When people think they are better than others at things, they should wait to be asked questions IF the other wants to do that or is willing/trustful enough to talk over the project, but to have someone acting as if he was incapable.  Just makes my blood boil.  Rich’s mother is the same.  Rich accidentally hit her with a hammer during one of his first attempts to do household maintenance tasks, so she’s told him ever since EVERY time being able has come up that he is incapable.  That kind of negativity AND untruth just rusts out the spirit.  I don’t want to say anything more about it because it’s just us complaining and I don’t really want to be there, but it’s still very aggravating.  It does teach me though to be less critical and more positive when Rich works so hard at fixing things.  There’s a lot ahead of him to work on, but there is no way we shouldn’t look at this as positive.  It is just a part of home ownership that times time, effort, and patience.  The list of things to do is incredible, so it makes sense to just do one thing at a time and build confidence.
Shoot, Rich just got done as far as he could.  It turned out that the fixtures were on the opposite side, which would have gone past where he was comfortably at.  Everything got put away then and he asked for paper to make a grocery list.  He’d been wearing down the supplies so we had less to move … I guess he’s ready now.  Good-good for me!  He’s bringing home fried chicken.  SWEET!

I wonder where the cats went … I do know that they can open and shut kitchen cupboard doors and especially Missy is real into that.  Yesterday after things were inside we opened their cages, but they hid in the bathroom where their litter box was.  Part of it was the shock of it all, but partly they are still shy around other people – even Nikki and Maury.  Nikki is working it through by trying to hold at least Chief when she’s here … she figures to wear HIM down.  Good deal!
Yesterday was a major important day to have shared with Nikki and Maury.  Nikki had volunteered them to come over and help both yesterday and tomorrow.  It was especially a big deal because they didn’t have kids and still spent their time with us old folks.  We couldn’t have had the beauty of today without them.  They worked so hard and I’m thinking for them they did it easily, though we heard from FB that they slept in today … Hehehe – ok, enough of that! 

What they did was to get here at about 10:30 AM and stayed til just after dinner.  We had pizza J  They made quick work of everything.  The first major project was lining shelves.  Rich pulled an extra thing with it last moment … he’d mentioned it before so I should have paid more attention.  The two kids worked together, but it seemed that both of them knew all the jobs … I couldn’t tell because we were trying to work ourselves, and we just saw them moving … they like never really stand still and we had confidence that after they took over they could do a much better job than we ever could have.  My biggest job seemed to be taking things out of boxes and unwrapping.  We had to find places for things as well, but pretty much knew what was going to be happening by then.  Rich was the person that was getting things done in-between all else.  I think he was more ungrounded than even me, but not by much.  We took a couple regrouping breaks in the sitting room and they seemed to like the new furniture and space.  We got some good time to just talk/listen and heard some about the grandchildren and things the kids were into.  Three of the grandchildren are in Washington DC with their friends and a few teachers.  They had a very jam-packed schedule and we’re of no doubt they’d be tired by the end.  Nikki thought there should be more verbal/phone chat, but my guess is that they were running ragged and just didn’t have the time to slow down their minds to think much of the parent’s comfort levels.  I’m so proud of them for being able to do something like this.  It’s just impressive.
The kids said that tomorrow Isa will be dropped off about 9 am and then they’ll be headed over here again to help with the movers and that coordinating project.  They told Isa that she was as a surprise going to help Gramma move.  I was really touched by that.  We’ll definitely work her in and maybe she can do some of the running if she can maintain interest.  She’s in the first grade this year, so everything is relative.  We’re hoping she has a real good time.  I don’t think she knows much about the move, but things are going to be very fun for her.  Nikki also said that they were planning to some special hunting for egg things for the girls either here or when they got back home.  We voted for the here version … I can’t think of anything more fun than watching them excitedly taking in the holiday.  It’s doubly sweet they’ll be investigating our new space probably more than us.  I hope it’s going to be a nice day.  From what I understand the kids hide the eggs outside and they work in teams.  I think she also said that Isa gets an advantage by them working in the dark.  I’m just so thrilled that they would think to invite us into their plans. 

The other things that happened were that in different parts of the project we worked – especially the guys on getting some things hung-up.  The map tapestry went up as well as the living room and sitting room curtains.  We ended up using the white lace from the Victorian house with the flowered print I bought at the Brookfield apartment.  I think it looks really nice.  We are having a little problem with Rich on hanging though.  I’m impressed he’s done a couple of his map pictures, but he’s set on just hanging-up pictures where there are already holes or nails/screws.  That is whether or not I want the picture hung there.  We are still trying to work that out.  When he finished the bed today, he hung-up a few more pictures in the guest room.  Again he covered old spots, but we were happy he was feeling more liberal about getting something up on the wall.  That had always been a problem at the old place, because after six years he couldn’t handle hanging up the maps.  Now he’s got one over the fireplace mantel, but he says it has to be taken in to a specialist to frame because its missing the glass and a hanger.  I hope he doesn’t put it off too much.  He’s been really cautious with spending extra money.  But, it’s going to be beautiful on this side (kitchen) of the mantel.  On the other side I have a picture left by Maury’s mother of a home in a cross-stitch like design with two birds I always related to blue birds of happiness.  Rich started gathering some of his trophy-like objects and we started gathering a few small framed Grandchildren pictures to put on either mantel.  Good stuff.
We didn’t get as far as hanging the quilt or the two design boards, but I don’t think those projects are as far off as they had been before.  In some fashion both projects have been started.  We also talked to Rich about getting lace for the four bedroom windows – that and I would still like to make curtains to go over them at nighttime.  I’m thinking right now I could use some of that muslin that I have for liners to make it less transparent.  Hmm, that’s a good idea.  I will check with CS just to make sure.  We’re just going on what we have that won’t cost.  I’ve got a whole bolt of it … though we’re thinking it will get used fast.  I want to find if it would be enough to make a difference as to light coverage.  It won’t happen before CS gets here.

I think we have to consider other projects too like doors and bathroom windows.  Maybe we can make some shower curtains for ourselves too.  I like the ones in the guest room, but the curtains and shower curtains in the master are just thin white and blue striped like they used to make old pillows from.  BLAH!  Rich really wanted something new other than the one I’d used for the Brookfield apartment.  Actually that curtain was purchased for the Victorian house and that was like 25 years ago … he’s right … we could do better.  Maybe we’ll ask CS to show us a few things on the sewing machine like how to make buttons so we could sew holes for the shower loops to go through.  And, I’m not sure, but we might need more skirts for the tables due to different coverage.  I was saving the curtains from our old sewing room because I love them so much … but it is the same material as being used on the skirt panels, so maybe if CS taught me the ruffle attachment we can complete the table skirts using the regular curtain materials.  We also could use extra material from the curtains to make covers for the couch arms where we had problems with the cats scratching.  The color goes with the couch and curtains, and there is not enough curtain to go on the longer window.  We’ll find something that coordinates in that room.  
We did look at some lace curtain places for reasonable prices at “Paul’s Home Fashions.”  We picked one out we liked called, “Irish Lattice Print.”  It says:

Bring a lovely romantic look to your home with the tailored Irish Point curtain pairs and matching valance.

Features a fine gauge jacquard lace inspired by traditional Irish Point design.
80" wide pair available in four different lengths.
Available in White or Ivory .
Size = 80"x 36". 80"x45",80"x 54", 80"x 63", 80"x 84", and 80"x96"
We would need

Master bedroom 80” x 45” and 80” x 63”
Sewing Room 2 – 80” x 63”

Guest Room 80” x 63”

Rich’s room 2 80” x 63”
Master bath 80” x 45” and  2 – 80” x 84”

LR 80” x 45”
So total of

3 - 80” x 45” = $20.99 x 3 = $62.97

6 - 80” x 63” = $26.99 x 6 = $161.94

2 - 80” x 84” = $31.99 x 1 = $63.98

TOTAL = 11 curtains sets for $288.89

Shoot that gets expensive, but from memory the old curtains cost like $120 a piece – just for one set – not sure which size … just always thought the curtains were around that area.  I have no illusion the bedroom curtains would be as nice as the other, but it would be fair for the cost.  But, then you have to figure out the cost of fabric yardage to go along with that.  I would order from Jinny Beyers.  She’s charging now $10.50 per yard … I would need 1,107 inches or 32 – 35 yards at 10.50 = $367.50 + 288.89 = GRAND TOTAL OF $656.39 … MAN OH MAN – so much think Rich isn’t going to go for that – specially after we add the cost of curtain rods … oh Lordy it’s like a thousand dollar package if between the lace rod and the curtain rod cost a total of $30 … PLUS couldn’t insulate/darken them at 35 yards of curtains!
Hmm, just found our colors are going to be the coral/pink, olive green, brown, gold and a little plum/purple in the master bedroom/bath, but in the process of really looking carefully at the walls in each room.  There were colors in each that I wasn’t aware of but the good news is that the rooms that had color the predominant color was the same coral/pink and olive green as my master colors.  I’m pretty happy with that for now.  I can honestly say I’d do a really nice job for $1000 to the four bedroom/bath walls.  Not much being done in the kitchen – one small window with a lace valence that is ok and I wouldn’t worry about the red valence in the sunroom (with the red carpet) which seems ok for what it is – mostly a seasonal indoor/outdoor room. 

Rich is home now and we’re going to be eating dinner soon.  He has to put groceries away to figure out his new space.  I’m going to post and get to the dinner part J Oh, I did tell him that I’d figured out the curtains and I’d do a really nice job with them, but that we’d have to save up some money … he kind of laughed I’m hoping it really wasn’t nervous laughter. Hehehe




Thursday, March 21, 2013

Not Much of a post, but we're still here!

Thursday, March 21, 2013 @ 5:15 am

Good morning!  As noted, we are getting closer and closer to the move and we figured there was just enough time to get one more scribble down.  MAYBE there is the possibility of writing one more time (Sunday) before the move, but I don’t see it happening quite yet.  The last entry we wrote was about 9 days ago … well that not counting the one we just posted of the schedule.  We told Nikki that she far exceeded any kind of comments we could have hoped for when she said HOLY SHI% LOLOL..  It was about the nicest thing anyone has ever told me!

Oh Lord how did I get here?  Basically we were looking at Etsy for a welcome to our home sign and we came up with this idea … and figured instead of paying for it, we could create a quilt by ourselves J


Rich & Ann's

Established 2013

(the FIRST 20 years 
were a warm-up)

And they lived
Happily for
Ever and ever!

*Giggling and giggling*

OK, not sure how we got from one space to another, but we’re thinking we are going VERY slow on the writing part.  Hmm, shoot, forgot … we are going to Dr. Marvin’s soon today.  It’s 7:12 am and we have to leave at 9:15 – so two hours.  Might as well get my shower and get dressed now while we’re up … just making another cup of coffee.  We were pretty much busted.  Rich somehow knew that we’d gotten up around 3 am.  He said he can tell either by how much coffee we drank, or by how many emails we sent him….  Smart-aleck!

Ok, good-good.  Shower is done and we’ve ate some bologna and cheese for breakfast … we’re out of milk.  We can get by J

Rich has since waken-up and he’s in the kitchen working.  I think that the job got ahead of him yesterday in that we heard him talking between the customer and the shop and there were mistakes made both ways that is really Rich’s job to stay on-top of.  Things should be fine, but it is causing him to work this morning with not much of a warm-up. 


Really far behind in blogging, BUT this is what we're up to 9 days later :)

All week
                Ann continue to assure all is in order (Production CoordinatorJ)
Ann continues to pack and unpack, and Rich loads and unloads,
Check mail at both places,
                Dust/wipe/sweep and vacuum,
Check all drawers, cabinets, and closets,
Mailed change of address for JVS check – look for it in the mail,
Complete last two boxes of Radon units, (goal to be completed by Friday night)
Rich to continue with normal business for PPA,

Anytime at the New house
                Check to see if bills or paperwork have to be taken care of during week of move,

Shopping List
                Buy milk            
10 more boxes and two more rolls of tape,
                Bin for under cat’s box,
                Hack saw,
                Inside ladder,
                Any extra hardware necessary to put up pictures and quilt,
                Brady tags for electronic stuff,
                New shower chair,
                Toilet seat,
                Towel bars for baths,
                Buy Rich/Ann tennis shoes,
                Ann’s new mouse,

To do Tuesday/Wednesday

To do today
Follow-up sent email to Medicaid T 3-19-13 @ 3:10 PM -
Follow-up apartment rental - Juanita stated we just needed to drop keys with them.  She said she would have Mike call, but generally, it is 30 days after they receive keys before we receive refund check.  Rich still wants the mail box key until the 31st,
                Discuss with Rich the replacement of my Kindle for $159 (old) $199 (new),
                Continue to pack,

Ann’s to be packed yet list Wednesday
Pictures remaining stacked in front and back hall closets,
                Check Rich’s closet for any remaining loose items,
Last items in 3 hall closets,
Little catch items in LR like under Rich’s table, drafting table, and fabric drawers,
                Rich’s chest of drawers,
                Night stand,
Garden pottery and candles box,
Cleaning supplies,

One midweek trip to new house (perhaps today – we will know by 1 pm)
                Remaining pictures,
                Majority of Rich's hanging clothes,
                Trolling motor,
                Plus, regular dirty laundry and such,
                Ann’s accordion files and box of current home and business paperwork,
                Rich’s business scales and sealer.
To do Thursday/Friday
Pick-up Ann’s medicine at UIC @ 10 am,
                Go to Dr. Marvin’s Thursday at 11 am, 
Take down the design boards and two last shelf rods, 
Take down extra curtain rods hardware,
Go out to dinner with Bob and Linda – hopefully on Friday – most likely after 6 pm,

Ann’s to be packed yet list Thursday/Friday
                Pots and pans,
                Food in cabinets,
                Food in fridge,
Linen in bathroom wicker shelve,
                Ann’s Electronic backpack,
                Last moment clothes – pull out for Sunday and Monday,
                Hardware for design boards, curtains, and wall hangings
                Box for tools and such from junk drawer

To do Saturday
Rich to go shopping in Sandwich at hardware store
Rich to look again at dishwasher plumbing on Saturday, but will call for help if necessary
Ask do we need to keep our Brookfield dishwasher?
Consider whether a 2nd trip needs to be made on either Saturday or Sunday and decide if plans need to be altered as to Rich sleeping in Sandwich or Brookfield 

2 cars in one trip on Saturday  
                DVR and Roku,
REGULAR dishes, 
                Pots and pans, 
                Food in cabinets and fridge
                Counter appliances, 
Pop and beer from mini-fridge,
Dirty laundry, and 
                Two not so happy cats and their supplies,   
                AND the coffee pot! 
Maury and Nikki
                                Help put together new kitchen,
                                Put-up design boards, family pictures, map pictures, map tapestry and quilt.

To do Sunday or before (Rich) – Rich is thinking he would now rather stay Sunday night at our new home instead of at the old apartment – make accommodations work – be like water!
                Fix ONE good horizontal filing cabinet and throw the other,
Pack business table and radon units,

To do MOVING Monday
Last Monday morning (Rich) – or before … depending on Rich choosing to stay at which location – and where he spends time on Sunday
                LR picture window curtain, (or before)
Personal bathroom supplies, Throw out red shower chair, (or before)
Linen from bed, (or before)
Bathroom rugs or any remaining laundry/towels/wash cloths to dirty laundry bags, (or before)
                Rich’s laptop, (or before)
Comcast items to Maury, (or before)
Extension cords, (or before)

Vacuum cleaner, mop, and broom/dustpan,
                Check downstairs storage cabinet,
Cleaning supplies (clean as movers are moving)
Drop keys (except 1 mail key) at rental office,
Maury and Nikki
Re-connect electronics – TVs and computers,
                                Assist in directing foot traffic with movers,
                                Assist in things to relieve some of our up and down movement,
                                Place books in two Living room bookshelves,
                                Place items back in desks or horizontal files,

To do after the move
                Take care of accessibility for guest washroom and breezeway,
Have LR drapes cleaned in Sandwich.
Get new driver’s licenses
Rich talked to roofer and will meet him on Tuesday the 26th @ 9 am.  


Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Seems like a really quick morning!

Tuesday, March 12, 2013 @ 7:53 AM

Good morning!  This is just me.  AHA!  In the shower and the place is picked up by 8 AM!  Great start to a day.  We’ve been up for almost two hours and haven’t gotten much done except appreciate our social world online.  Man-o-man do I love that space!

We’re a bit scattered … now it is 9:33 AM and I’m not sure I could say that we have much accomplished since the last paragraph.  We did do our sinks and that’s a start and not only is we showered, but we’re dressed to the tie-up shoes.  We’re in a Flylady zone in our brain.  We’re expecting Rich home in about a half hour.  He called this morning just to let me know where he was in his schedule. 

I think part of the reason we’re so scattered is that in our mind we’re somewhere between our old house and our new one so kind of floating in our mind there.  We finally closed down the Flylady stuff because we couldn’t find current stuff and it was driving us a little nutty.  We turned on Pandora … it’s playing one of my favorites, “Time to say goodbye.”  It is tuned into things that are similar to Sarah Brightman.  I’m hoping it will help me clear our head.

There are so many nice things that happened between now and basically, Thursday when we last wrote.  We did post pictures from Friday of the place so we won’t do that again, but I have to tell you that we live in that space.  When we are feeling lost we look back at the pictures taken especially of the main rooms with the kitchen REALLY being a favorite.  Right now we are looking at the one where the camera faces OUR chair!  We’re talking about the green cushioned chair from the new bar stool set.  We have found that we’re better with the ones without backs, because of our weight.  I’m hoping though that our guests are comfortable in the regular chairs.  We can do them, but don’t really like the tightness.  Rich would be saying we could be doing something about that?  *sigh*  Ok, moving on

I can honestly say we wish that we were sitting in that chair directly, but we’re also figuring that there will be so many nice areas in the new home that we won’t know where to sit.  We got a call saying that the recliners will be here on Saturday (about one week before the big move).  On last Friday we got a LOT of stuff.  Basically, the bed came in, and the kitchen chairs, and the Dish TV.  The bar stools were already there, and then yesterday, we got the Internet hooked up.  I feel like we’ve said this a dozen times.  We keep going over it in our head as if we’re going to forget something. 

One of the nicest things that happened is that Maury, Nikki, Jade and Jasmine were then over on Saturday to share the new house with us.  I think it made a good first impression even without the majority of the furniture.  Between the bar stools for dinner and the kitchen chairs in the sitting room afterward, it was really nice.  And, people seemed to feel good about getting up and down, using the washrooms or for the kids finding empty rooms to practice their dances.  Maury teased me at one point right before they left in that he assured that all three bathrooms were happening at the same time.  He was the first to use the kitchen bathroom – he’s a silly kid!  Love the dickens out of him. 

I was so happy Maury and his girls were over.  It felt like one of the most natural things to be having him lean against the chairs and to be engaged between a six-way conversation.  It’s fun to get a new house and then have someone come in who is interested in talking about it.  I’m hoping that happens some more before it gets old.  Right now its evolving with things getting added.  I can imagine far down the road – talking years ahead now that we’ll continue to do things that will get us excited.  I don’t think people in apartments do so much due to the limitations of their landlords.

Rich has been talking about making a “to-do” list for the house and for the supplies and other objects that we’re going to want – AND pay for.  It’s been a little overwhelming so far, but we’re going to get there.  Going back to Flylady as she tells us to shine the sink and put on our shoes is a good first foot forward.  There’s so many thoughts to be having.  I know it is a good thing to write things down and then build-in some routines. 

Last night was another break in the hundreds of thoughts going into the new place when the “alert-people” called from Rich’s Mom’s place.  She’d been overly drunk and disorderly again and had told the police that her husband was beating her.  Rich went out there and met several police at their house.  It was decided that they were both very angry at each other, not sure of the physical stuff … depend on who you ask.  One way or another Bud left last night.  Not sure if he wanted to or had to.  Not sure what kind of night Rich had with her.  It’s really sad sometimes.  I don’t think she would look at it this morning as if there were anything particularly wrong with police being at her house because of quarreling with her husband.  Rich will let me know where he has to be or what he is doing pro-actively.  We’d so help we could help take off some of the burden by being out there – four miles at least from their place.  We will continue to hope so.

We’re back.  We’ve been talking to Linda, but she mysteriously disappeared and didn’t come back.  Most likely something happened to her computer and she had trouble getting back online, or just decided to move on with her day.  She was planning on being on the bike and then working on the big V-ger quilting machine.  LOTS for her to do today!

There’s only twenty minutes before we leave for Dr. Marvin.  Rich is going over an officiating online test for baseball.

Enough good words cannot be said about him.  He’s very hardworking and faithful as a St. Bernard.  Maybe more … he doesn’t drink!

Let’s see what else can be said in so little time?

I am looking forward to seeing Dr. Marvin.  He has seen the pictures we took on Friday and responded with a nice note yesterday.  We are so beholden to him.  He makes our heart pitter-patter!  Well, obviously not the same way as Rich, but damn fine!

It seems that we’ve been talking about harder stuff of late.  It might start out with something we are going through, but there is less complaining and more trying to figure out how to fix-it.  Linda and us talked too today about stuff that seems to be changing in our life and maybe it’s more toward attitude.  No one knows how long we’ll be able to maintain all this happiness, especially with housekeeping involved, but we really are into Flylady right now.  Maybe I just don’t have any other real life examples of how to keep pace with my immediate life.  I think we could go as far as to think we might look in on her sessions of saving dinner.  I would like to find things that I can cook – and then sometimes cook for our man.  Wouldn’t that be something.  But, maybe we are all way out far ahead of ourselves?

I don’t know … we’ve so far washed the kitchen up several times including cabinets, drawers, counters, and floors.  It’s like we’re trying to make good with her!  And, we give her a lot of positive vibes sitting with her while we’re at the home.  I’m not sure if the kitchen stool will always be my homebase.  It has a lot of completion with the desk area and this computer, not to mention the sewing and sitting room areas.  BUT, Man-o-man endorphins running all over the place!

As of today, there are only 13 more days before the move.  In general … we have work on the bigger closets and the kitchen.  I know that our aim is to move without really stressing out.  Well, the one day we could really stress-out – the actual day we’re making plans by not being at the old house.  That came out in conversation with Rich the other day.  We were planning and figuring how to do the kitchen.  Rich conceded that he might stay out there an overnight two nights before we move.  He hasn’t allowed us to stay out yet, so we were ecstatic.  He was talking about bringing the majority of the clothes over by then AND the dishes.  So from that point we’d eat over at the new house. 

The really instrumental thought put out there next by me was that … Saturday would be the last day we saw the old place.  This would be obviously the 23rd.  Looking at it now would mean as well that that will be the day we move the cats over.  It will have to be in their box and they will have to be kept in the box when the movers are there and then maybe put in the back bathroom area for when everyone was around.  Not sure.  I think they like to see what is happening.  They’ve been through this three times now … I can’t think they will remember much from the last time.  I’m just hoping I don’t startle them into a heart attack or something.  I can’t give the cats overnight to any of the kids though because they all have the dogs.  YEEKS!  That wouldn’t work any better.  I think with the box they also have the feelings that no one can get at them.  I hope so.  If we had a door in the laundry room we would close that, but there will be so many moving around not trusting that anyone wouldn’t open a door.  Best to keep them in the box and get them out as soon as possible.  They are used to hiding when people come over here, and we’re thinking the movers won’t take much more than 3-4 hours.  That’s our best guess.

Thing is they’d be able to get used to the place a bit without the furniture and just having a quiet time with Rich and us so that they can get past the move, before they have to get past the moving and the movers.  A new house is one thing … but everything out of order has to be challenging to them.  I’d actually like to put them up where the microwave and toaster are going to go … they’d be up on the counter in the box.  It would be on the back laundry wall so out of the way, but yet able to see where people were going or doing.  After a while it would break into a routine of people movement for them.  That’s the impression we had from the last move.  We’d put food and water in, but there isn’t a lot of room in the box.  It was gotten when they were younger.  Fortunately, cats don’t grow too much.

Shoot, shoot … need to get going.  Dr. M. time!!!!