Friday, November 22, 2013 @ 7:37 am
Good morning! Just us
and we’re a little tired, but happiness reigns in the land ;) Mostly because Thom stayed over yesterday and
it was like a pajama party! He and us
stayed up until about 1:30 am. I think
he’s just like that and was working through a situation in his regular life
through the phone, so we got the good parts in-between … We had a lot of fun
talking through a movie. I don’t know
what the name of it was, but had something to do with Gangs in NY a long time
ago when NY was just young and a lot of immigrants were coming in. Maybe if I thought long and hard enough I’d remember
the star of the show … I know he’s famous but we’re terrible with names.
Aha! That wasn’t hard
to find … the movie WAS called Gangs of New York (2002) and the star I was
thinking about was Leonardo DiCaprio.
Also Cameron Diaz and Daniel Day-Lewis
Anyway it was a good movie to watch and like we said stayed
up until 1:30 am, but was getting tired and then Thom was like well gotta go to
bed and he said there was about a half hour left so we could watch it or if we
were tired, he’d just tell us the ending.
So, we opted for the latter and was soon in snugly-land.
*Sigh* Life is good AND this is the day we’re meeting ALL
THREE BOYS!!!! Just crazy excited. I’s 7:53 am now and we’ll have to leave the
house about 9:30 am. I think Thom woke
up for a short bit … got some water and is now in his room on the phone. The guy keeps a busy social/work
calendar. Hehehe good attachment to
phone. At first I thought someone was
talking outside the house because it was so muffled, but finally figured it
out.
I guess we’re kinda muffled too in that our head isn’t
thinking any straighter than seeing my boys.
I don’t really understand why this simple thing is being SOOO profound,
but it is just one of the hottest Mom things that could happen. I’m imagining there will be some serious
things, but mostly just fun. I hope
everyone is bringing their best game! It
will be one of the top highlights of Thom’s trip home. AND, we’re thinking we’re putting unprecedented
excitement in having a new picture of all three boys, but we know that will be
very important for the day too. We’ve
looked at the picture of the three of them so often – once when Thom was just
going into bootcamp, and then the other two years ago, when Thom had been
home.
Ahh, we are getting a few minutes to talk to Melanie the wife
of one of Rich’s earliest friends. It’s
always an honor when we connect. It
doesn’t happen often enough, but very happy when it happens J
In other news? Not
much really happening. Yesterday we did
meet with Dr. Marvin, and it was a pretty good meeting … we seemed to be on top
of the things going on in our life, although we’ve been remiss with our work on
Multiplicity. Just haven’t been able to
concentrate. I KNOW you know why! But, we did talk about some general catching
up with things like Thom being in town, what’s happening with Rich and us, a
little about the Multiplicity, but we’re not getting a very good memory of all
that. I know the first thing we talked
about was the parking garage being full where we usually park, and having to
walk farther toward a second garage on the other side of UIC hospital. It was hard finding a space there too. I was grateful there were some stone benches
half way in-between so we could stop and rest.
It’s a little scary to think that we might have to worry about parking
EVERY time we go. We hope it has been
just a fluke.
At the very end of the session – we looked at the clock and
said … well we’re pretty much through, but SINCE we had to park so far away, we
weren’t going to let him go a moment early.
So, we asked about stuff going on in his world, and he told us about
interviewing the new residents. He says
about 10 people get the position of about 120 that apply … He says they have
really good people being hired for the positions, and that they also have ways
to get other residents placed where they might want to be as first priority
too. Dr. Marvin amazes us all the time.
BUT, we did let him go on time … just a wild few minutes to
talk about stuff he’s doing instead of all the time about us.
After we got done with Dr. Marvin’s, we went to pick up
Thom. We had no problem getting there
and when we’d checked in to tell him when we’d be picking him up at his dads,
he said he was STARVING! It was really
strange though. Thom had talked to his
father about something or other and he guessed right that we’d both be getting
there at the same time. We haven’t seen
our ex since Joe and Cari’s wedding three years ago. We had just pulled up and then he and an old
college friend – now living in the area (think they are best friends) any way
they pulled up behind me and then we got confused, because we were in his
driveway and I didn’t know if we were blocking him, and then there was the
awkward, ok, here we are … now what?
But, he got out of the car very quickly and Thom followed a
little more tentatively, but my ex came over to my side of the car and extended
his arms to give us a hug. Man-o-man …
we didn’t’ see that coming. It felt very
natural and I actually enjoyed it. It
was a nice hug … not too short, not too long.
In the process of him going from his side of the car to ours, he invited
us into his house three times. That was a
bit awkward too, and I knew that Thom wouldn’t take too long to get ready
because he’s always on time, but his father like stood by the door and gave us
one more wave forward and so we figured that was just going to happen.
We of course had been curious about his house, and it was
indeed very nice from what we saw in the entryway. Thom had come down after a minute and seemed
eager to go. We looked around once and
saw the general outline where there was an open living room/dining room to the
left – most of the house after that then straight ahead, and a nice staircase to
the right. We had problems looking up so
were more attuned to the ceramic floor than much other. I remember thinking that the walls were
painted nicely, but I couldn’t tell you know what color, because things were
happening so fast.
I think he wanted us to see his house, though I’m not sure
why. I am pretty sure he’s proud of it
and might have wanted to show it off a bit.
I don’t get the impression that he has lingering bad thoughts of us, just
that our worlds don’t often connect so when they do it’s a pretty big
deal. I remember at the door him moving
around in the space, and Tom (my ex’ friend) teased Thom about having 7 minute
conversations at best, so I’m guessing they just keep missing each other.
We knew that Ann was out which made things a little more
cloudy. I think it was a good encounter
just don’t know what to do with it mentally.
I remember some sense of being in a comparison mode. I think our impression was that he definitely
had the fancier more luxurious home … don’t remember seeing furniture, but that
we felt our home felt more inviting as to it’s warmth. I don’t mind that we walk into a blank
breezeway through the sunroom and then into the kitchen – we do like how our
place opens from the sliding doors so you are seeing the fireplace, kitchen
table, kitchen and part of the living room all with one good long glance. It’s like we’re not hiding things and once
upon walking in you are at the heart of our home. We really like everything just mentioned and
we like that in our living room, it is mostly taken up by a large wrap around
couch. Whether it takes up enough or too
much room is another question, but in general we like that it feels like a
really nice big social area to take in welcomingly anyone who might come
in.
I suppose it might not be a good idea to make comparisons,
but it’s what happens. The house my ex
and his wife own in Bolingbrook seems very much like a few that we’d looked
at. The one that I loved the most had
the same living room dining room, but it had an open loft over the dining part
which we loved and the living room was two story. We also in the ones we looked at walked into
the house as his did, b and you would have an open kitchen, breakfast table and
great room – usually with a fireplace. I’ll
ask Thom today to clarify if it was like that or other. But, after that, we will probably put housing
aside.
Hmm, thinking we have to take a break now because we have to
get in our shower. Yup yup … we’ll be
back, but THINKING about what’s ahead!
Good good. Showered and everything. We’re not going to do much housework this
morning if anything. Mostly, because we
only have a little longer to write and that seems more important to us now than
anything. We are showered and dressed
and only have to grab our medicine, use the washroom, grab the coat and we’re
out the door … should remember to take some water too. We usually keep one in the car and that’s now
gone. We have money and credit card in
our coat pocket. Hmm, thinking we better
look in the bank to see what we can cover.
Thom’s going to argue, but we’re going to say it’s a MOM thing to take
care of lunch costs. Thom is very
generous about paying, but we don’t think he should pay everything – especially
because this is “MY event” Hehehe.
Hmm. Looks good we
have $187 in the “petty cash” account.
That’s WAY more than we will need.
It looks like we’ve paid our furniture payment, gas, electric, and
cable, but only have $1100 in that account and we haven’t paid rent on land yet
so that will put at us only $660 going into next month. Pswhoo … life is tough. BUT we’re making it! I know I know the world of high
finances. It blows me away that some
people actually have from thousands to hundred thousands to millions put in
their accounts and we’re struggling with a $187 balance. I guess it’s always been like this for us
though so will most likely remain the same forever. We’re still on the plus side, but a little
upset, could jar everything. Ok, you …
have to keep positive!
After Thom and us left his father’s place, we stopped by our
favorite train restaurant. We were
talking all through the car drive and through eating. We had our favorite PLUS two Bloody Mary’s
and he had some kind of a wrap and just pop.
We got home and he was working on some of his stuff and we were just taking
care of light business, and then when Rich came home he brought pre-cooked
fried chicken. It wasn’t the greatest,
but was fine. After dinner Thom went
back to his computer – he was sitting on the sitting room side of the fire, and
then Rich and us talked at the table for a bit.
Eventually we all worked our way to the living room and had a nice time
watching/talking through TV. And, then
about 9 pm, Rich went to bed, and you know the rest … PJ PARTY!
AHA! Thom is up and
is fixing all the remotes. He figured
out how to make the TV’s work off one remote other than two. He did the LR last night, and is looking at
the other three … our bedroom and sewing room shouldn’t be any problem, but I’m
not sure if our guest room is just too old.
He’ll look AND we still got twenty minutes. WooHOO!!!
I know shouldn’t put guests to hard labor, but it WAS
something he came up with on his own. We
haven’t given Rich a chance to know what Thom’s done, but I KNOW he’s going to
be happy. Having a second remote is
always a hassle.
Ok, just stalling the moments here. Better get the medicine, water and what
left? Reading back … Ok, good good …
just have to grab our coat. I’m afraid
all Thom’s waking up time is like working on remotes L BUT, he KNOWS it’s making our life happy … eh,
he could watch TV and it would make us happy too!
Just checked his room to make sure he didn’t leave
anything. Everything he’s got now is in
the LR. He was able to do Three of the
four remotes. *sigh*
I think we’re a little hyper and don’t want to lose any of
these moments. SO what else in the
experience? He’s watching something
about hmm, I don’t know commercial.
Maybe he’s skipping channels a bit.
That works. We talked a little
bit about his hyper activity. Just he
moves really fast like we used to at his age.
Thing is his mind is ALWAYS thinking … we were like probably having
flying dreams ;)
Hmm, forensic scene think its CSI.
Maybe we should do the posting … just don’t want to leave.
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