People in Ann's Life

People in our Life

(Ongoing annotated list of people in our life

And mentioned in our blogging)

Us, our, we, me – Ann (1) Garvey - multiple from Chicagoan area with one core and 19 parts (See tab under Ann’s Parts and in this "People in our Life" dialogue - marked in bold), in a long-term (18 year) relationship with our live-in love Rich, and has three adult sons who are each married (Ann and her ex), with a total of five grandchildren – four granddaughters and one grandson, and we also have two cats.  Ann is retired from her former position, is currently on leave from her Master’s work in Adult education in e-learning, technology, design (focusing on dissociation).  She maintains two blogs (this one and NEWS DID/MPD) and has an e-presence; she also quilts with Linda, CS, Jean, Janet, Emily, CS and others.

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Albert Einstein – stated in one of Ann’s blog entries, “To raise new questions new possibilities, to regard old problems from a new angle, requires creative imagination and makes real sense out of science.”

Ami – is our oldest granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Maury and his ex) and still goes to school.

Anderson Cooper – is Ann’s favorite TV personality who hosts his own day time TV show and nighttime news show.

Andrew – is Rich’s step-sister’s youngest son.

Ann (1) – (fourteen years to 52 years) created to negotiate high school socially and emotionally, somewhat needy, holds lower expectations, Mom, wife, patience, but more unsure of herself, unconditional love and understanding (especially when frustrated), wants a home and to be married, nurturer, feels guilty for not being good enough or deserving, handled parents and marital separation and divorce.

Ann (2) – is Ann’s favorite quilt shop owner from Menomonee Falls, WI.  She and her husband Tom have three children.  Ann also provides courses and retreats for Ann and her friends.

Anna – (two and a half years to six years) senses danger, holds severe pain, physically abused, Hides face, rocking, and non-communicative, will hide, curls up like Mimi, but usually is guided by Marie, has a sense of mystery, inquisitive, held early relationship with paternal grandmother (non-abusive).

Annemarie – Annemarie – (birth to age 16) core part keeper of our soul, often depressed and fantasizes death and suicide, anxious and tense, most responsible for over-weight, had a good relationship to paternal grandmother, becomes overwhelmed, sensitive to noise, secretive, easily disappointed, centered on self and her privacy, likes to sit or lay very still, has abuse nightmares, slow, has trouble leaving house.

Anniemi – (five years to 30 years) formal “front” part shown to early school in response to problems with the Casies handling kindergarten, church and home, nervous about the need to be good, not bad, ombudsman, deals with fairness and compromise, negotiations and  complaints, sometimes stutters, tries to study and help, but sometimes it seems with blinders on. Often starts and stops projects out of confusion, is forgetful, easily assumes position of rejection, feels devoted to Sr. Tess/Sr. Theresa and is close to Dear Heart (Annemarie), sometimes suicidal, memory of childhood stories.

Austin – is Ann’s only grandson (Thom and Laura/ex-girlfriend) from the Chicagoan area and still goes to school.

Ayn – (seventeen years to 52 years) created to present best “integrated” part, registered for college, writing/some editing, team leader, best mixed of all the parts together, counselor, early interest in psychology and human development, will discuss internal parts with Corey, smooth over system presentation to a public world, finds it easy and fulfilling to take care of people.

Bloom – wrote taxonomy for education systems in 1946 to better understand mental processes of learning and cognition and it is still being utilized and further developed.

Bob (1) – is Rich’s best friend (from elementary school) from the Chicagoan area and is with Linda.  Bob has a private sheet metal business and fishes often with Rich.  

Bob (2) – is Rich’s Uncle from the Carolina’s and is married to Diane and has had two children and is retired from the Air Force and from working at GM.  He met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.

Brandy - is Rich's oldest niece from the Chicagoan area and is the daughter of Mark (2)

Carey Burgess – is a nice representative Ann met from Adobe who assisted her with a big problem and ascertained that she receive at great cost reduction e-learning software.

Cari – Is our DIL from the Chicagoan area married to Joe and has one dog – Ramsey.  Cari is a registered nurse and teaches kick-boxing.

Casey – (four years to 10 years) twin to KC, accepted sexual abuse as self being wanted, watches over body systems (hunger, tired, pain, washroom and medications) with KC, but is more positive and imaginative, usually a porter/portal to meet the youngest parts, naive, talkative, cries easily, loves cookies and will steal food, gets tired faster than others, helpful, feels glee, error on the side of cautiousness, played with neighborhood kids.

Chief – is one of Ann’s two black cats (brother/sister) and he is 14 years old.

Connie Sue (CS) – is our younger sister from the Rochester, MN area and she is married to Mark, and they have one son and two dogs – Curly and Macy.  Connie Sue is retired, but used to be a social worker working with public assistance.  She also quilts with Ann, Linda, Jean, Janet, Emily and others.

Chris – is Rich’s SIL from the Albuquerque, NM area recently married to Jillian and has a son from a previous marriage.  They have a dog and two cats.  He works as a director on a grant to assist the elderly.  He met Ann and Rich at his and Jillian’s wedding.

Christopher – is Rich’s youngest son from the Chicagoan area and is married to Christy and has one son.   Christopher works at a bank.

Christy – is Rich’s DIL from the Chicagoan area and is married to Christopher and has one son.

Corey – (ten years to 42 years) responded to depressive withdrawn years after the “real” Sarah died, will do basic journalistic writing, serious, first babysitter, can get overwhelmed and confused, most introverted, relies on Marie, likes to summarize, thinks often about hiring help, asks questions, and loves cuddling on rainy days with friend or book.

Crystal (1) – (eight months to four years) inability to breathe, startles, thrashes, autistic, choked by ejaculations, smothered due to screaming, seizure-like, is hyper-alert.

Crystal (2) - is Rich's niece from the Chicagoan area and is in a steady relationship with Tom and has a son Chance from a previous relationship and who is still in school.

Debbie – is one of Ann’s friends from the Quilting retreats that Ann (2) provides in November each year.  Debbie has two children.

Diane – is Rich’s Aunt (Rich’s Mother’s sister) from the Carolina’s and is married to Bob and has had two children.  She is retired from working at GM.  She met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.

Doug – One of Rich’s best friends (from elementary school) from the Chicagoan area married to Melanie.  Doug owns a children’s shoe business.

Dr. Dell (Paul) – is Ann’s favorite writer (along with his partner John O’Neil) who write on the the psychological side of dissociative identity disorder.  Paul can be located by Twitter and Blogger.

Dr. Marvin (Robert) – or Dr. M. is Ann’s current Psychiatrist from the University of IL – Chicago and they’ve been in a therapeutic relationship for 13 years.

Dr. Woollcott (Philip) – is Ann’s former Psychiatrist from the University of IL – Chicago and they had been in a therapeutic relationship for 7 years.

Duyen – Is our DIL from the Washington DC area married to Thom.  Duyen is an accountant.

Eileen – is one of Rich’s best friends’ wife from the Chicagoan area and is married to Jack.  They have three children and own a private bakery.

Embry - (0-0 months), the only part of us that died at birth.  Was Mimi's twin.  Responsible for the Ann's system of devotion and dedication.  We do things in her name.  She was symbolically buried in 1992(3) near the old tank at Bunker Prairie Park, in MN where we cross-country skied in high school.

Emily – is one of Ann’s best friends from the WI area and she and her husband have one daughter.  She works as a project manager and she quilts with Ann, Jean, Janet, Linda, CS and others.

Gracie – (one and a half years to five years) severe manipulation of genitals makes our body rigid, easily paralyzed and catatonic, hyperventilates, fear, will close down our system (cause minds to disconnect), makes guttural sounds from her throat, weary and fearful, played with neighbor Carol Ann.

H – is a best friend and co-worker of Jillian’s from the NM area and is married.  H also teaches PE to elementary kids.  They met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s wedding.

Harry – is Jillian’s Boss’ husband from the Albuquerque, NM area and is married to Judy.  He is a real cowboy!

Henry – (six years to 32 years) our early “runner” to avoid abuse and later cross country skier, non-sexual, only male in system, idea man and seeks solutions, assists Sarah with the younger parts needs and protection, likes to fix things, competent, steps in to help with housework, does computer uploading, downloading and a variety of the more complex computer processes, is athletic like Jamie, seems to maintain age of oldest “external” son.

Isa – is our youngest granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Maury and his ex) and still goes to school.

Jack – one of Rich’s best friends (elementary school) from the Chicagoan area married to Eileen.  They have three children.  Jack and Eileen own a private bakery.

Jade – is our oldest step-granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Nikki and her ex) and still goes to school.

Jacki – is the wife of Ann’s ex from the Chicagoan area and has six children/step-children and grandchildren.

Jamie – (eleven years 45 years) created as a response to early sexual cues with same age kids, some of the writing/organizing, stats, least amount of trust for outside world, charts etc. helps with younger parts when they are dealing with outside world, dry humor, will help Kate with money tasks, easily annoyed, she is bi-sexual, toughest of us, was athletic before weight gain and smoking.

Janet – is one of Ann’s best friends from the WI area and she is the twin to Jean.  They have one cat.  Janet works in management and quilts with Jean, Ann, Linda, Emily, CS and others.

Jasmine – is our youngest step-granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Nikki and her ex) and still goes to school.

Jaxsyn – is Rich’s grandson (Christopher and Christy) from the Chicagoan area.

Jean – is one of Ann’s best friends from the WI area and she is the twin to Janet.  They have one cat.  Jean works in management and she quilts with Janet, Ann, Linda Emily, CS and others.

Jessie – (eighteen years to ageless) first truly independent part, left for school and travel to Norway, sense of power and purpose, idealist, adventurer, sprite and relies on Marie, role definer, self-reliant, sense of a broader humanity, guides our future and ambitions including the writing, loves to make things by hand, watches over Sarah and Henry.

Jillian – Is Rich’s daughter from a previous marriage from the Albuquerque, NM area and has just recently married Chris, and they have a son from Chris’ previous marriage.  They also have a dog and two cats.  Jillian is an Elementary PE instructor.

Joe – is our youngest of three sons from the Chicagoan area married to Cari and has one dog – Ramsey.  Joe works with school loans, teaching girls’ gymnastics, and co-owns his own Karate Dojo (Sensei – black belt).

John O’Neil – The co-author (with Paul Dell) of Ann’s favorite book on Dissociative Identity Disorder.

Jon – is Rich’s oldest son from the Chicagoan area and he has one cat and works as a private computer web designer.

Judy – is Jillian’s boss from the Albuquerque, NM area and is married to Harry.  She is the principal of Jillian’s school.

Julie - is one of Ann's closest friends from San Diego, CA and has three adult children, in-laws, and a grandson.  Julie is a writer for the courts system and met Ann through Vickie and the Marine Mom's organization.

Karen – is Rich’s step-sister from the Chicagoan area and is married to Rich (2) and has three children and a granddaughter.  She works in manufacturing.

Kate – (sixteen years to 52 years) created to capstone formal intellectual needs of high school and college, leadership roles, writing/heavy editing, boss role, commanding, decision-maker, holds higher expectations, likes to take vacations, pragmatic, chief financial officer, goal setter, and watches over Anniemi, non-sexual.

KC – (four years to 10 years) twin to Casey, rejected sexual abuse as wrong/bad, watches over body systems (hunger, tired, pain, washroom and medications) with Casey, but is more negative and realistic, gets frustrated and angry easy, favorite word is no, collusive, loves ice cream, helpful, feels shame, over responsible for her age, first guardian over early relationships, stopped hugs and kisses from family members, system’s buoy or thermometer.

Kelsie – (twelve years to 38 years) created to help things that were going wrong, nervous, work gas station handle light bookkeeping, cash register, payroll and customers, endurance and giftedness, handled mental illnesses obsessive, anxious, compulsive, night owl, hardest worker, natural intellectual ability, service orientated, in charge of CARF accreditation.

Laura – is Thom’s ex-girlfriend from the Chicagoan area and mother to Thom’s son Austin.  She is a counselor and program director for an abuse shelter.

Linda (1) – is Ann’s best friend from the WI area and is married to Tony (Tpony) and she has two adult children who are each married, and she has three grandchildren.  Linda is a retired office worker and she now owns a private quilting business and quilts with Ann, Janet, Jean, Emily, CS and others.

Linda (2) – is one of Ann’s best friends from the Los Vegas, NV area who is married and has one daughter.  She works as a nurse and quilts with Ann (1) and Ann (2), Janet, Jean, Emily, CS and others.

Linda (3) – is Rich’s best friend significant other.  She and Bob have three cats and she is retired.

Lissa – (seven years to 25 years) receiver of “punishments,” does not talk, very isolated, and shows signs of neglect, responsible for interest in learning, and does a lot of research, books, and library, biggest reader, very curious and loves to learn, tied with Ann for wanting house, plays and enjoys music, enjoys especially the piano, will feed Corey lists, likes going out to eat with the Casies, loves to drive, will use self-destruction to get system to hospital rather than take a chance on suicidal behavior.

Marie – (two to ageless) – internal self-helper, sense of knowledge, consciousness, understands switches, internal answers and history, never is out by self, but is evident in our rocking, and knows internal needs of system.

Mark (1) – is our BIL married to our sister Connie Sue, and they have one son and two dogs – Curly and Macy.  Mark is and aid to people with disabilities and is completing work on his CNA.

Mark (2) – is Rich’s brother from the WI area, he is single but has two adult children from a previous marriage and a grandson.  Mark is an over-the-road cross-country truck driver.

Mary – is Rich’s former SIL from the Chicagoan area married to Tim.  They met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.

Maury (1) – is our oldest of three sons from the Chicagoan area married to Nikki.  They have between them four daughters and one dog – Lady.  Maury works as a cable technician.

Melanie – is Rich’s friend Doug’s wife.

Mimi – (three months to three years), inability to hold consciousness, sleepy, calmed by massages, given alcohol to body parts to suckle on and keep quiet.

Missy – is one of Ann’s two black cats (sister/brother) and she is 14 years old.

Multiples who Blog – are approximately 140 people who have dissociative identity disorder and blog.  Ann reads the blogs often and provides newsworthy annotated quotes in her blog NEWS DID/MPD.

Multiples who Twitter – are approximately 130 people who have dissociative identity disorder and Twitter.  Ann reads and interacts with Twitter as often as possible.

My ex – is Maury (2) from the Chicagoan area and he is married to Jacki and they have 6 children/stepchildren and grandchildren.  He is retired, but formally was a Victorian house painter.

My Father - (Larry) from the Minneapolis area - died in 2003 at the age of 63, survived by his second wife Sandy.  He had three children, my brother, me and my sister.  He was a small businessman. 

My Mother – (Carol) is presently in her 70’s from the Northern part of MN.  She is a new widow and has had three children – my older brother, me and our sister.  She is retired from working as a receiving clerical at a major department store.

My Stepfather - (John) from the Northern part of MN - died in 2011 at approximately 80 years of age.  He was in a second marriage to my mother and had three children and three stepchildren.  He was an accountant for a large company.

My Stepmother - (Sandy) from the Minneapolis area - died in 2003 at approximately 53 years of age.  She was a recent widow (3-4 months) having just lost her husband (my father).  She had three stepchildren, two sisters, and two nieces she was close to.  She was an Account Executive for a company working with municipal school bonds.

Nathan – is my adult nephew from the West Bend, WI area.  He is presently single and has one dog – Remington. He does various jobs such as painting trailers and signs.

Natty – is Chris’ son and Jillian’s step-son going to college in the Colorado area under a scholarship to play baseball (pitcher, left and center field).  He met Ann and Rich at his parent’s/step-parent’s wedding.

Nikki – Is our DIL from the Chicagoan area married to Maury.  Nikki and Maury have between them they have four girls and one dog – Lady.  Nikki works for a big corporation as a project manager.

Ray – is Rich’s daughter’s new FIL from NM married to Sugar.  They have five children, in-laws and grandchildren, and although retired – own a private chili farm.  He met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s wedding.

Rich – is our boyfriend of 18 years (lived together five years) from the Chicagoan area.  He has three adult kids (Rich and his ex) – two of which are married and giving Rich one grandson and one step-grandson.  Rich does private contract work for workshops with people who are disabled and he is an official for football, basketball, and baseball.

Rich’s ex – is from the Chicagoan area and has three adult children (she and Rich), in-laws and grandson.  She is retired and met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.

Rich’s mother (Janice) – is presently in her 80’s from the Chicagoan area.  She is married to her second husband, Bud and had two sons – Rich and Mark.  She also has step-children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren.  She is retired, but used to work as a Teamster in a business office.

Rich's stepfather (Bud) – married to Rich's mother and from the Chicagoan area.  He’s got five children, grandchildren and a great grandchild from a previous marriage.  He is retired, but use to work with mechanics.

Sarah (1) – (eight years 32 years) held first spontaneous school/scout friendship but friend Sarah died, holds our faith, happiness and humor, creative, watches younger parts while older parts are working, keeps health and safety balanced, playful, is sunny and loves the outdoors, loves the recorder and singing, most imaginative, likes to take pictures.

Sarah (2) – is another multiple like Ann who is also an author and does mega-work on the Internet for multiples.

Spencer – and his wife are the owners of the Hacienda in NM were Jillian and Chris got married.  This is where he met Ann and Rich.

Sugar – is Rich’s daughter’s new MIL from NM and is married to Ray.  They have five children, in-laws and grandchildren.  She is retired – but owns a private chili farm.  She met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s wedding.

TED – An organization that puts out thousands of worthwhile engaging speaker videos on technology, education and design from all over the world.

Thom – is our middle of three sons from the Washington DC area and is married to Duyen and has one son from a previous relationship.  Thom is a Marine working in Intelligence at the Pentagon.

Tim – is Rich’s former BIL from the Chicagoan area married to Mary and met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.

Tony - is Ann's friend Linda's (1) husband from WI and is commonly called TPony.  They have two adult children and three grandchildren.  He works with inventory/numbers at a moderate-sized company.

Vickie (1) - is one of Ann's closest friends from La Porte, TX and is married to Keith.  They have four adult children, in-laws, and a Granddaughter and owns a private car part store.  She met Ann through the Marine Mom's organization.

Vickie (2) - is Rich's cousin and Aunt Diane and Uncle Bob's daughter from Durand, MI who is married to Floyd.  Together they have about 50 children who were from a foreign exchange student program.  They are both retired teachers.