People in our Life
(Ongoing annotated list of people in our life
And mentioned in our blogging)
Us, our, we, me – Ann (1) Garvey - multiple from Chicagoan area with one core and 19 parts (See tab under Ann’s Parts and in this "People in our Life" dialogue - marked in bold), in a long-term (18 year) relationship with our live-in love Rich, and has three adult sons who are each married (Ann and her ex), with a total of five grandchildren – four granddaughters and one grandson, and we also have two cats. Ann is retired from her former position, is currently on leave from her Master’s work in Adult education in e-learning, technology, design (focusing on dissociation). She maintains two blogs (this one and NEWS DID/MPD) and has an e-presence; she also quilts with Linda, CS, Jean, Janet, Emily, CS and others.
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Albert Einstein – stated
in one of Ann’s blog entries, “To raise new questions new possibilities, to
regard old problems from a new angle, requires creative imagination and makes
real sense out of science.”
Ami – is our oldest
granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Maury and his ex) and still goes to
school.
Anderson Cooper – is Ann’s
favorite TV personality who hosts his own day time TV show and nighttime news
show.
Andrew – is Rich’s
step-sister’s youngest son.
Ann (1) – (fourteen years to 52 years)
created to negotiate high school socially and emotionally, somewhat needy,
holds lower expectations, Mom, wife, patience, but more unsure of herself,
unconditional love and understanding (especially when frustrated), wants a home
and to be married, nurturer, feels guilty for not being good enough or
deserving, handled parents and marital separation and divorce.
Ann (2) – is Ann’s
favorite quilt shop owner from Menomonee Falls, WI. She and her husband Tom have three children. Ann also provides courses and retreats for
Ann and her friends.
Anna – (two and a half years to six
years) senses danger, holds severe pain, physically abused, Hides face,
rocking, and non-communicative, will hide, curls up like Mimi, but usually is
guided by Marie, has a sense of mystery, inquisitive, held early relationship
with paternal grandmother (non-abusive).
Annemarie
– Annemarie – (birth to age 16) core part keeper of our soul, often
depressed and fantasizes death and suicide, anxious and tense, most responsible
for over-weight, had a good relationship to paternal grandmother, becomes
overwhelmed, sensitive to noise, secretive, easily disappointed, centered on
self and her privacy, likes to sit or lay very still, has abuse nightmares,
slow, has trouble leaving house.
Anniemi – (five years to 30 years)
formal “front” part shown to early school in response to problems with the
Casies handling kindergarten, church and home, nervous about the need to be
good, not bad, ombudsman, deals with fairness and compromise, negotiations
and complaints, sometimes stutters, tries to study and help, but
sometimes it seems with blinders on. Often starts and stops projects out of
confusion, is forgetful, easily assumes position of rejection, feels devoted to
Sr. Tess/Sr. Theresa and is close to Dear Heart (Annemarie), sometimes suicidal, memory of
childhood stories.
Austin – is Ann’s only
grandson (Thom and Laura/ex-girlfriend) from the Chicagoan area and still goes
to school.
Ayn – (seventeen years to 52
years) created to present best “integrated” part, registered for college,
writing/some editing, team leader, best mixed of all the parts together,
counselor, early interest in psychology and human development, will discuss
internal parts with Corey, smooth over system presentation to a public world,
finds it easy and fulfilling to take care of people.
Bloom – wrote taxonomy for
education systems in 1946 to better understand mental processes of learning and cognition and it is
still being utilized and further developed.
Bob (1) – is Rich’s best
friend (from elementary school) from the Chicagoan area and is with Linda. Bob has a private sheet metal business and fishes often with Rich.
Bob (2) – is Rich’s Uncle from
the Carolina’s and is married to Diane and has had two children and is retired from the Air Force and from working at GM. He met Ann at
Jillian’s wedding.
Brandy - is Rich's oldest niece from the Chicagoan area and is the daughter of Mark (2)
Carey Burgess – is a nice
representative Ann met from Adobe who assisted her with a big problem and
ascertained that she receive at great cost reduction e-learning software.
Cari – Is our DIL from the
Chicagoan area married to Joe and has one dog – Ramsey. Cari is a registered nurse and teaches
kick-boxing.
Casey – (four years to 10 years)
twin to KC, accepted sexual abuse as self being wanted, watches over body
systems (hunger, tired, pain, washroom and medications) with KC, but is more
positive and imaginative, usually a porter/portal to meet the youngest parts,
naive, talkative, cries easily, loves cookies and will steal food, gets tired
faster than others, helpful, feels glee, error on the side of cautiousness,
played with neighborhood kids.
Chief – is one of Ann’s
two black cats (brother/sister) and he is 14 years old.
Connie Sue (CS) – is our
younger sister from the Rochester, MN area and she is married to Mark, and they
have one son and two dogs – Curly and Macy.
Connie Sue is retired, but used to be a social worker working with
public assistance. She also quilts with Ann, Linda, Jean, Janet, Emily and others.
Chris – is Rich’s SIL from
the Albuquerque, NM area recently married to Jillian and has a son from a
previous marriage. They have a dog and
two cats. He works as a director on a
grant to assist the elderly. He met Ann
and Rich at his and Jillian’s wedding.
Christopher – is Rich’s
youngest son from the Chicagoan area and is married to Christy and has one son. Christopher works at a bank.
Christy – is Rich’s DIL
from the Chicagoan area and is married to Christopher and has one son.
Corey – (ten years to 42 years)
responded to depressive withdrawn years after the “real” Sarah died, will do
basic journalistic writing, serious, first babysitter, can get overwhelmed and
confused, most introverted, relies on Marie, likes to summarize, thinks often
about hiring help, asks questions, and loves cuddling on rainy days with friend
or book.
Crystal (1) – (eight months to four years)
inability to breathe, startles, thrashes, autistic, choked by ejaculations,
smothered due to screaming, seizure-like, is hyper-alert.
Crystal (2) - is Rich's niece from the Chicagoan area and is in a steady relationship with Tom and has a son Chance from a previous relationship and who is still in school.
Debbie – is one of Ann’s friends from the Quilting retreats that Ann (2) provides in November each year. Debbie has two children.
Debbie – is one of Ann’s friends from the Quilting retreats that Ann (2) provides in November each year. Debbie has two children.
Diane – is Rich’s Aunt (Rich’s
Mother’s sister) from the Carolina’s and is married to Bob and has had two children. She is retired from working at GM. She met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.
Doug – One of Rich’s best
friends (from elementary school) from the Chicagoan area married to Melanie. Doug owns a children’s shoe business.
Dr. Dell (Paul) – is Ann’s favorite writer (along with his partner John O’Neil) who write on the the psychological side of dissociative identity disorder. Paul can be located by Twitter and Blogger.
Dr. Marvin (Robert) – or Dr. M. is Ann’s current Psychiatrist from the University of IL – Chicago and they’ve been in a therapeutic relationship for 13 years.
Dr. Marvin (Robert) – or Dr. M. is Ann’s current Psychiatrist from the University of IL – Chicago and they’ve been in a therapeutic relationship for 13 years.
Dr. Woollcott (Philip) – is Ann’s
former Psychiatrist from the University of IL – Chicago and they had been in a
therapeutic relationship for 7 years.
Duyen – Is our DIL from
the Washington DC area married to Thom.
Duyen is an accountant.
Eileen – is one of Rich’s best
friends’ wife from the Chicagoan area and is married to Jack. They have three children and own a private
bakery.
Embry - (0-0 months), the only part of us that died at birth.
Was Mimi's twin. Responsible for the Ann's system of devotion and
dedication. We do things in her name. She was symbolically buried
in 1992(3) near the old tank at Bunker Prairie Park, in MN where we
cross-country skied in high school.
Emily – is one of Ann’s
best friends from the WI area and she and her husband have one daughter. She works as a project manager and she quilts
with Ann, Jean, Janet, Linda, CS and others.
Gracie – (one and a half years to
five years) severe manipulation of genitals makes our body rigid, easily
paralyzed and catatonic, hyperventilates, fear, will close down our system
(cause minds to disconnect), makes guttural sounds from her throat, weary and fearful,
played with neighbor Carol Ann.
H – is a best friend and co-worker of Jillian’s
from the NM area and is married. H also teaches PE to elementary kids. They
met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s wedding.
Harry – is Jillian’s Boss’
husband from the Albuquerque, NM area and is married to Judy. He is a real cowboy!
Henry – (six years to 32 years) our
early “runner” to avoid abuse and later cross country skier, non-sexual, only
male in system, idea man and seeks solutions, assists Sarah with the younger
parts needs and protection, likes to fix things, competent, steps in to help
with housework, does computer uploading, downloading and a variety of the more
complex computer processes, is athletic like Jamie, seems to maintain age of
oldest “external” son.
Isa – is our youngest
granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Maury and his ex) and still goes to
school.
Jack – one of Rich’s best
friends (elementary school) from the Chicagoan area married to Eileen. They have three children. Jack and Eileen own a private bakery.
Jade – is our oldest
step-granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Nikki and her ex) and still goes to
school.
Jacki – is the wife of Ann’s
ex from the Chicagoan area and has six children/step-children and
grandchildren.
Jamie – (eleven years 45 years) created as a response to early sexual cues with same age kids, some of the writing/organizing, stats, least amount of trust for outside world, charts etc. helps with younger parts when they are dealing with outside world, dry humor, will help Kate with money tasks, easily annoyed, she is bi-sexual, toughest of us, was athletic before weight gain and smoking.
Janet – is one of Ann’s best friends from the WI area and she is the twin to Jean. They have one cat. Janet works in management and quilts with Jean, Ann, Linda, Emily, CS and others.
Jasmine – is our youngest
step-granddaughter from the Chicagoan area (Nikki and her ex) and still goes to
school.
Jaxsyn – is Rich’s
grandson (Christopher and Christy) from the Chicagoan area.
Jean – is one of Ann’s
best friends from the WI area and she is the twin to Janet. They have one cat. Jean works in management and she quilts with Janet,
Ann, Linda Emily, CS and others.
Jessie – (eighteen years to ageless)
first truly independent part, left for school and travel to Norway, sense of
power and purpose, idealist, adventurer, sprite and relies on Marie, role
definer, self-reliant, sense of a broader humanity, guides our future and
ambitions including the writing, loves to make things by hand, watches over
Sarah and Henry.
Jillian – Is Rich’s
daughter from a previous marriage from the Albuquerque, NM area and has just
recently married Chris, and they have a son from Chris’ previous marriage. They also have a dog and two cats. Jillian is an Elementary PE instructor.
Joe – is our youngest of
three sons from the Chicagoan area married to Cari and has one dog – Ramsey. Joe works with school loans, teaching girls’
gymnastics, and co-owns his own Karate Dojo (Sensei – black belt).
John O’Neil – The co-author
(with Paul Dell) of Ann’s favorite book on Dissociative Identity Disorder.
Jon – is Rich’s oldest son
from the Chicagoan area and he has one cat and works as a private computer web
designer.
Judy – is Jillian’s boss
from the Albuquerque, NM area and is married to Harry. She is the principal of Jillian’s school.
Julie - is one of Ann's closest friends from San Diego, CA and has three adult children, in-laws, and a grandson. Julie is a writer for the courts system and met Ann through Vickie and the Marine Mom's organization.
Karen – is Rich’s step-sister from the Chicagoan area and is married to Rich (2) and has three children and a granddaughter. She works in manufacturing.
Karen – is Rich’s step-sister from the Chicagoan area and is married to Rich (2) and has three children and a granddaughter. She works in manufacturing.
Kate – (sixteen years to 52 years)
created to capstone formal intellectual needs of high school and college,
leadership roles, writing/heavy editing, boss role, commanding, decision-maker,
holds higher expectations, likes to take vacations, pragmatic, chief financial
officer, goal setter, and watches over Anniemi, non-sexual.
KC – (four years to 10 years)
twin to Casey, rejected sexual abuse as wrong/bad, watches over body systems
(hunger, tired, pain, washroom and medications) with Casey, but is more
negative and realistic, gets frustrated and angry easy, favorite word is no,
collusive, loves ice cream, helpful, feels shame, over responsible for her age,
first guardian over early relationships, stopped hugs and kisses from family
members, system’s buoy or thermometer.
Kelsie – (twelve years to 38 years)
created to help things that were going wrong, nervous, work gas station handle
light bookkeeping, cash register, payroll and customers, endurance and
giftedness, handled mental illnesses obsessive, anxious, compulsive, night owl,
hardest worker, natural intellectual ability, service orientated, in charge of
CARF accreditation.
Laura – is Thom’s ex-girlfriend from the Chicagoan area and mother to Thom’s son Austin. She is
a counselor and program director for an abuse shelter.
Linda (1) – is Ann’s best
friend from the WI area and is married to Tony (Tpony) and she has two adult
children who are each married, and she has three grandchildren. Linda is a retired office worker and she now owns a private quilting business and quilts with Ann, Janet, Jean, Emily, CS and others.
Linda (2) – is one of Ann’s
best friends from the Los Vegas, NV area who is married and has one daughter. She works as a nurse and quilts with Ann (1) and Ann (2),
Janet, Jean, Emily, CS and others.
Linda (3) – is Rich’s best
friend significant other. She and Bob have three
cats and she is retired.
Lissa – (seven years to 25 years)
receiver of “punishments,” does not talk, very isolated, and shows signs of
neglect, responsible for interest in learning, and does a lot of research,
books, and library, biggest reader, very curious and loves to learn, tied with
Ann for wanting house, plays and enjoys music, enjoys especially the piano,
will feed Corey lists, likes going out to eat with the Casies, loves to drive,
will use self-destruction to get system to hospital rather than take a chance
on suicidal behavior.
Marie – (two to ageless) – internal
self-helper, sense of knowledge, consciousness, understands switches, internal
answers and history, never is out by self, but is evident in our rocking, and
knows internal needs of system.
Mark (1) – is our BIL
married to our sister Connie Sue, and they have one son and two dogs – Curly and
Macy. Mark is and aid to people with disabilities and is completing work on his CNA.
Mark (2) – is Rich’s
brother from the WI area, he is single but has two adult children from a previous
marriage and a grandson. Mark is an over-the-road
cross-country truck driver.
Mary – is Rich’s former
SIL from the Chicagoan area married to Tim. They met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.
Maury (1) – is our oldest of
three sons from the Chicagoan area married to Nikki. They have between them four daughters
and one dog – Lady. Maury works as a
cable technician.
Melanie – is Rich’s friend
Doug’s wife.
Mimi – (three months to three years),
inability to hold consciousness, sleepy, calmed by massages, given alcohol to
body parts to suckle on and keep quiet.
Missy – is one of Ann’s
two black cats (sister/brother) and she is 14 years old.
Multiples who Blog – are approximately 140 people who have dissociative identity disorder and blog. Ann reads the blogs often and provides newsworthy annotated quotes in her blog NEWS DID/MPD.
Multiples who Twitter – are approximately
130 people who have dissociative identity disorder and Twitter. Ann reads and interacts with Twitter as often as possible.
My ex – is Maury (2) from
the Chicagoan area and he is married to Jacki and they have 6
children/stepchildren and grandchildren.
He is retired, but formally was a Victorian house painter.
My Father - (Larry) from the Minneapolis area - died in 2003 at the age of 63, survived by his second wife Sandy. He had three children, my brother, me and my sister. He was a small businessman.
My Mother – (Carol) is presently in her 70’s from the Northern part of MN. She is a new widow and has had three children – my older brother, me and our sister. She is retired from working as a receiving clerical at a major department store.
My Mother – (Carol) is presently in her 70’s from the Northern part of MN. She is a new widow and has had three children – my older brother, me and our sister. She is retired from working as a receiving clerical at a major department store.
My Stepfather - (John) from the Northern part of MN - died in 2011 at approximately 80 years of age. He was in a second marriage to my mother and had three children and three stepchildren. He was an accountant for a large company.
My Stepmother - (Sandy) from the Minneapolis area - died in 2003 at approximately 53 years of age. She was a recent widow (3-4 months) having just lost her husband (my father). She had three stepchildren, two sisters, and two nieces she was close to. She was an Account Executive for a company working with municipal school bonds.
Nathan – is my adult nephew from the West Bend, WI area. He is presently single and has one dog – Remington. He does various jobs such as painting trailers and signs.
My Stepmother - (Sandy) from the Minneapolis area - died in 2003 at approximately 53 years of age. She was a recent widow (3-4 months) having just lost her husband (my father). She had three stepchildren, two sisters, and two nieces she was close to. She was an Account Executive for a company working with municipal school bonds.
Nathan – is my adult nephew from the West Bend, WI area. He is presently single and has one dog – Remington. He does various jobs such as painting trailers and signs.
Natty – is Chris’ son and
Jillian’s step-son going to college in the Colorado area under a scholarship to
play baseball (pitcher, left and center field).
He met Ann and Rich at his parent’s/step-parent’s wedding.
Nikki – Is our DIL from
the Chicagoan area married to Maury. Nikki and Maury have between them they have four girls and
one dog – Lady. Nikki works for a big
corporation as a project manager.
Ray – is Rich’s daughter’s
new FIL from NM married to Sugar. They
have five children, in-laws and grandchildren, and although retired – own a private chili farm. He met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s wedding.
Rich – is our boyfriend of 18
years (lived together five years) from the Chicagoan area. He has three adult kids (Rich
and his ex) – two of which are married and giving Rich one grandson and one
step-grandson. Rich does private
contract work for workshops with people who are disabled and he is an official
for football, basketball, and baseball.
Rich’s ex – is from the
Chicagoan area and has three adult children (she and Rich), in-laws and grandson. She is retired and met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.
Rich’s mother (Janice) – is presently
in her 80’s from the Chicagoan area. She
is married to her second husband, Bud and had two sons – Rich and Mark. She also has step-children, grandchildren,
and great grandchildren. She is retired,
but used to work as a Teamster in a business office.
Rich's stepfather (Bud) – married to Rich's mother and from the Chicagoan area. He’s got five children, grandchildren and a great grandchild from a previous marriage. He is retired, but use to work with mechanics.
Sarah (1) – (eight years 32 years) held first spontaneous school/scout friendship but friend Sarah died, holds our faith, happiness and humor, creative, watches younger parts while older parts are working, keeps health and safety balanced, playful, is sunny and loves the outdoors, loves the recorder and singing, most imaginative, likes to take pictures.
Sarah (1) – (eight years 32 years) held first spontaneous school/scout friendship but friend Sarah died, holds our faith, happiness and humor, creative, watches younger parts while older parts are working, keeps health and safety balanced, playful, is sunny and loves the outdoors, loves the recorder and singing, most imaginative, likes to take pictures.
Sarah (2) – is another multiple
like Ann who is also an author and does mega-work on the Internet for
multiples.
Spencer – and his wife are the owners of the Hacienda in NM were Jillian and Chris got married. This is where he met Ann and Rich.
Sugar – is Rich’s daughter’s
new MIL from NM and is married to Ray. They
have five children, in-laws and grandchildren. She is retired – but owns a private chili
farm. She met Ann and Rich at Jillian’s
wedding.
TED – An organization that
puts out thousands of worthwhile engaging speaker videos on technology,
education and design from all over the world.
Thom – is our middle of three
sons from the Washington DC area and is married to Duyen and has one son from a
previous relationship. Thom is a Marine
working in Intelligence at the Pentagon.
Tim – is Rich’s former BIL
from the Chicagoan area married to Mary and met Ann at Jillian’s wedding.
Tony - is Ann's friend Linda's (1) husband from WI and is commonly called TPony. They have two adult children and three grandchildren. He works with inventory/numbers at a moderate-sized company.
Vickie (1) - is one of Ann's closest friends from La Porte, TX and is married to Keith. They have four adult children, in-laws, and a Granddaughter and owns a private car part store. She met Ann through the Marine Mom's organization.
Vickie (2) - is Rich's cousin and Aunt Diane and Uncle Bob's daughter from Durand, MI who is married to Floyd. Together they have about 50 children who were from a foreign exchange student program. They are both retired teachers.
Tony - is Ann's friend Linda's (1) husband from WI and is commonly called TPony. They have two adult children and three grandchildren. He works with inventory/numbers at a moderate-sized company.
Vickie (1) - is one of Ann's closest friends from La Porte, TX and is married to Keith. They have four adult children, in-laws, and a Granddaughter and owns a private car part store. She met Ann through the Marine Mom's organization.
Vickie (2) - is Rich's cousin and Aunt Diane and Uncle Bob's daughter from Durand, MI who is married to Floyd. Together they have about 50 children who were from a foreign exchange student program. They are both retired teachers.
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